BETH JANNERY

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Beth Jannery is author of several non-fiction books. She teaches writing and communication at George Mason University. Beth is available for freelance writing & editing projects. Call: 860.798.2847 www.BethJannery.com

Simple Grace

Simple Grace
Simple Grace - Simple Miracles by Beth Jannery

Simple Grace - Living a Meaningful Life

Simple Grace - Living a Meaningful Life
Simple Grace - Living a Meaningful Life by Beth Jannery

Simple Grace Daily Joys by Beth Jannery

Daily Joys
By beth jannery

Friday, December 17, 2010

We Always Get What We Need

Faith and grace and gratitude are beautiful themes of the holiday. I am always moved by meeting people who overcome struggle...their stories inspire. I love reading and writing and retelling stories of people helping people.....stories of beating adversity.....miracle stories....they make for good holiday reading because they force us to stop and think about faith, to feel grace and to embrace gratitude. Here is a story that has been passed down through the years and is included in Simple Miracles.
I woke up one morning with six hungry babies and just seventy-five cents in my pocket. Their father was gone. The boys ranged from three months to seven years; their sister was two.
   Their Dad had never been much more than a presence they feared. Whenever they heard his tires crunch on the gravel driveway they would scramble to hide under their beds. He did manage to leave fifteen dollars a week to buy groceries. Since he left, there were  no more beatings, but there was no food either. If there was a welfare system in effect in southern Indiana at that time, I certainly knew nothing about it.
   I scrubbed the kids until they looked brand new and then put on my best homemade dress. I loaded them into the rusty old '51 Chevy and drove off to find a job. The seven of us went to every factory, store and restaurant in our small town. No luck. The kids stayed, crammed into the car and tried to be quiet while I attempted to convince whomever would listen that I was willing to learn or do anything. I had to have a job.
Still no luck.
The last place we went was several miles out of town. It  was an old root beer barrel drive-in that had been converted into a truck stop. It was called the Big Wheel.
   A lady named Granny owned the place and she peeked out of the window from time to time at all those kids. She needed someone to work on the graveyard shift, which was 11 p.m. until 7 a.m.  She paid sixty-five cents an hour and said I could start that night.
   I raced home and called the teenager down the street that babysat for people. I bargained with her to come and sleep on my sofa for a dollar a night. She could arrive with her pajamas on and the kids would already be asleep. This seemed like a good arrangement to her, so we made a deal.
   That night when the little ones and I knelt to say our prayers we all thanked God for finding Mommy a job. And so I started at the Big Wheel.
   When I got home in the mornings I woke the baby-sitter up and sent her home with one dollar of my tip money.  I averaged $2 in tips each graveyard shift. I'm not complaining; I was deeply grateful to have a job to buy food for my children.
   As the weeks went by, heating bills began to add another strain to my meager wage. The tires on the old Chevy had the consistency of balloons and began to leak. I had to fill them with air on the way to work and again on the way home.
   One bleak fall morning, I dragged myself to the car to go home and found four tires in the back seat. New tires! There was no note, no nothing, just those beautiful brand new tires. Had angels taken up residence in Indiana?
   I made a deal with the owner of the local service station. In exchange for his mounting the new tires, I would clean up his office.
   I was now working six nights instead of five and it still wasn't enough. Christmas was coming and I knew there would be no money for toys for the kids. I found a can of red paint and started repairing and painting some old toys. Then I hid them in the basement so there would be something for Santa to deliver on Christmas morning. Clothes were a worry too. I was sewing patches on top of patches on the boys pants and soon they would be too far gone to repair.
   On Christmas Eve the usual customers were drinking coffee in the Big Wheel. These were the truckers, Les, Frank, and Jim, and a state trooper named Joe. A few musicians were hanging around after a gig at the Legion and were dropping nickels in the pinball machine. The regulars all just sat around and talked through the wee hours of the morning and then left to get home before the sun came up. When it was time for me to go home at seven o'clock on Christmas morning I hurried to the car. I was hoping the kids wouldn't wake up before I managed to get home and get the presents from the basement and place them under the tree.
   It was still dark and I couldn't see much, but there appeared to be some dark shadows in the car - or was that just a trick of the night? Something certainly looked different, but it was hard to tell what. When I reached the car I peered warily into one of the side windows. Then my jaw dropped in amazement. My old battered Chevy was full with boxes of all shapes and sizes.
   I quickly opened the driver's side door, scrambled inside and kneeled in the front facing the back seat. Reaching back, I pulled off the lid of the top box. Inside was a whole case of little blue jeans, sizes 2-10! I looked inside another box: It was full of shirts to go with the jeans. Then I peeked inside some of the other boxes: There were candy and nuts and bananas and bags of groceries. There was an enormous ham for baking, and canned vegetables and potatoes. There was pudding and Jell-O and cookies, pie filling and flour. There was a whole bag of laundry supplies and cleaning items.
   And there were five toy trucks and one beautiful little doll. As I drove back through empty streets as the sun slowly rose on the most amazing Christmas day of my life, I was sobbing with gratitude. I will never forget the joy on the faces of my little ones that precious morning.
   Yes, there were small miracles in Indiana that long-ago December. They hung out at the Big Wheel truck stop.

Simple Miracle:  No matter how low your bottom, a way out is always revealed. Unexpected miracles happen all the time. Keep doing the right thing and you'll begin to see your own daily miracles.

Thursday, December 9, 2010

My Daily List

I've been practicing Yoga for two decades. It is something I must do. I can do 99% of the poses - minus the handstand and extended back bend. No thanks. I'll never have that hot little tight Yoga bod either - or the trendy, organic, expensive clothes to match. But I've been doing it for years and I do it to center and stretch and breathe. I do it alone. It's free and it makes me feel good.

There are things we all must do each day. If I don't practice - or at least do some basic stretches - I feel off. I like to feel good - here are a few other things I must do in a given day to feel good. I call it my daily list.

Do you have a daily list? In other words, if you don't do the things on your list you feel off (like my last blog post...I realized two things that day....I hadn't done my morning Yoga and I hadn't expressed gratitude). It's a fast downward spiral. To avoid going to that place, to avoid negative space, I must hit my daily list.

1. Make my bed (don't drink, don't smoke, try to do the next right thing....try....)...
2. Grind coffee beans & make (strong) coffee in my French press. I'm old school. I know, I should drink more green tea...oh well. Last night I had authentic Korean hot detox tea so that counts!
3. Pray. Meditate. Reflect. Be quiet.
4. Express Gratitude.
5. Help others. Even if I help only one other person it gets me outside of self.
6. Hug, kiss and snuggle with my daughters. This really should be number one. It's pretty much the thread that weaves my day, week, month, year....life.
7. Laugh. When was the last time you laughed so hard you had to pee!? I love to laugh.
8. Write. Something. Just write. Lately it's been a novel I'm working on called The Weekend at the Inn. It's getting quite erotic....who knew? Write....see what comes out.
9. Pick up clutter. I hate clutter. Call it a touch of OCD.
10. Nature. Something outdoors. Even a walk. Fresh air. Breathe deeply.

Tuesday, December 7, 2010

Pet Peeves


Today I am not feeling the love. So, you get a taste of my mean and nasty side. I work really hard not to let little annoyances rule my life, but once in a while I dip into the dark side.
Here is a brief blog post about what is driving me crazy today.
Tomorrow it will be something new, hopefully you’ll catch me on my sunny side.
5. Liars – Just tell the truth. Keep life simple.
4. Toilet Cell Phone Users – Lately I’ve been in the bathroom (on campus, at an airport, a restaurant, etc….) and the woman in the stall next to me has been chatting away on her cell phone. Shut the *&%( up.  FLUSH! Next time her cell is going down the toilet!
3. Excuses – If you didn’t do the work you didn’t do the work. It’s that simple.
2. Complainers – I will make the argument that complainers are the same people who are full of excuses.
1. Dating at 40 sucks! I either get the men who want to marry me after the first day or they want to have an affair. Somewhere in the middle would be really nice. A little romance even…..
Remember Thelma and Louise? You get what you settle for. If I surround myself with liars, toilet cell-phone users, excuse-makers, haters, complainers and cheaters….well then….if nothing changes nothing changes.