BETH JANNERY

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Beth Jannery is author of several non-fiction books. She teaches writing and communication at George Mason University. Beth is available for freelance writing & editing projects. Call: 860.798.2847 www.BethJannery.com

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Friday, January 30, 2009

a gift of grace


gifts come in funny ways and they are not always wrapped with a pretty bow. they arrive daily if we have our eyes open. one was given to me today; it appeared in my email inbox.

a reader of of one my books, Simple Grace - Living a Meaningful Life, sent a letter from the heart. it was her blog posting highlighting a couple thoughts that touched her. we're having coffee together one brisk february morning.

besides it always being a gift to hear from readers, she showed me how thoughts can be put into actions. read on. and let me know when you come up with your theme song. we're still working on ours.


blog of sharon rainey
www.sharonsnook.blogspot.com

Wednesday, January 28, 2009

the perfect moment



have you ever experienced a perfect moment? if you think you may have then you haven't. if you have you know with every bone in your body. these moments are rare.

it is the opening of your heart where before it was sealed. it is lifting your eyes and knowing, absolutely, that life is greater than you can imagine. time stands still.

euphoria.

nirvana.

your inner truth is revealed in a blink. if you capture it and prolong it you will experience more and intensity burns but it is alright.

for a girl who can't live in grey - it is too uncomfortable - for a girl who has the defect of creating boxes and needing to put people, places and experiences into compartments - the perfect moment is a gift.

it is a gift that brings breathing space where all is right with the world. there is no anger or resentment and all hurt is healed. the past is meaningless. i let go of anything negative. the future doesn't exist. the perfect moment is when my heart is vulnerable.

stars are brighter. the air is more crisp. the mountain's peaks are sharper than they were. the tides flow in rhythm. music is heightened and every note revealed.

maybe love is felt for the moment. i'm still, for once, space in time - and i wait for another. it gives hope i can be better than i have been. maybe the boxes open a bit more and the grey is less fearful.

Saturday, January 24, 2009

facebook, time and energy drains



today i shut down my facebook. it is a fairly silly thing, the decision to do it or not, but i debated it for a day or two. pros: nice to connect, reconnect, share funny happenings and see what my little piece of the world is up to. cons: why? why bother? how about picking up the phone. call a friend or shoot an email if you want to connect. fb could easily become a time waster. and here is a big reason why...some fb lurkers who have nothing better to do than let you know they are:

wiping their kid's snotty nose - or going out to dinner - or watching The Office - or listening to "the old" Clash - or - or - or - or...

i make a rule in my life to avoid toxic people and energy drains.

then there were those who got pissy if i didn't respond right away...

"didn't you get my kidnap invite to share your top five favorite cooking secrets that helped you catch that special guy who needed your 80's quiz to know if you liked polka dot leggings or v-nectk forenza sweaters better so you can watch the Breakfast Club dvd or listen to Blister in the Sun and grab a fruity pina colada while you do this together or perhaps your more of a dirty martini girl or maybe you like...... "

you can block or ignore but that only works for so long. odd little subculture. and i'm guilty of it too. looking back over my posts i see how i once was "reading" or i want "off for the weekend" or i'd post pageant pictures or kid pictures that really, who cares?! i will admit is was a lot of fun to gear up for my 20th reunion. a useful tool.

imagine a quick, fun, harmless pop-in to take a looksie... say, ten minutes a day. well, seven days a week and there goes at least an hour of my life.

hhmm, next blog could be: ten ways to use an extra hour per week.

or, i could write about blogs are top time wasters, but then i wouldn't be very "2009" now, would i? plus, i'm an author. we are supposed to write and pontificate.

Friday, January 23, 2009

Calm Forgiving


You know I can't resist sharing a quote I stumbled across in my weekly reading. Here is a lovely one... This by Mark Twain - Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it.

In other words, no matter the situation, the phone call, the email, the traffic, my response should always be - Bless Them. Heal Me.

healing



Two weeks ago I heard someone speaking about how cruel people can be. His suggestion, say a short prayer for the other person. Even if in traffic and some driver cuts you off, instead of getting angry which is what you want to do, simply stop, breathe and say this: "Bless Them. Heal Me."

Repeat as often as necessary - in traffic, in response to rudeness, after being treated unfairly, or even when you have justified anger or you know you are in the "right" and the other person has been clearly cruel, mean, or just plain wrong.

Bless Them. Heal Me.
Bless Them. Heal Me.
Bless Them. Heal Me.


Guess what? I tried it. So did a girlfriend of mine. We put it to the test. And, it works. It saves emotional energy. It reminds me what is important and if I get spun up about little rude things then I am wasting my precious time. Better for me to say, "Bless them. Heal me" and move on.

live in truth



A reminder to speak and live in truth -

I tore myself away from the safe comfort of certainties through my love for the truth; and truth rewarded me.
- Simone De Beauvoir

A reminder to love and be kind to each other -

This is my simple religion. There is no need for temples; no need for complicated philosophy. Our own brain, our own heart is our temple; the philosophy is kindness.

- Dalai Lama

Monday, January 5, 2009

Help Ever Hurt Never


Love all serve all... help ever hurt never...

Today I was reminded of something I hadn't heard in a long, long time. Help ever, hurt never. I believe the saying goes something like, "Love all, serve all...help ever, hurt never."

Got me thinking about how closed off we (I) can be, that is to say I close off love, unconditional love, and keep it, don't share it, am not of service as times, and how selfish is this? It can be a quiet prison of sorts. And something I must be very watchful and mindful of is my isolating. Isolation = not a good thing! It starts me on a spiral down. But if I'm helping and not hurting others then I am of use and purpose and outside of my isolated self, more free from ego and less self-centered.

Some ramblings I found here and there that make sense to me-
People have forgotten the meaning of love and affection. They don't know to love people, serve people. They are lost. Is this ego? Ego is another problem that has raised because of this. Once if a person has ego he loses his character and once character is gone every thing is gone. Is this a way a human should behave?

Follow these lines "love all serve all... help ever hurt never". This is said by SaiBaba. Its absolutely true. If you start loving people unconditionally, you will never hurt any one. Helping tendency flows within you and you will begin to serve people.

If we all start doing this we will have peace and harmony in this world. Transformation is necessary in me, and you, and you to over come this problem. It can be transforming.

I'm thankful for hearing help ever, hurt never again today.
It was too long. It is good to remember.

Wednesday, December 31, 2008

Slow Down You Crazy Child


People have told me to take off my rose colored glasses since I first moved to Washington DC in 1991 when I began my

communications career at CNN. I wore my optimism on my sleeve, and I do to this day. Many times I was told to: "Slow down you crazy child You're so ambitious for a juvenile...."

Wouldn't I rather be disappointed and never give up than to give up without ever taking a risk. Always turning any setbacks or disappointment into a growth experience. Whenever there is pain, or a lack of comfort, there is an opportunity there.

The energy here in the nation's capitol captivated and captured me. It does to this day. I breathe it in, sometimes I left to move out to the country for a quiet retreat - to Connecticut, to New York, but always back again.

Again starting on a new path - a career change - having another book released in 2009and returning to the woman I once was becoming. It is a beautiful thing and my rose glasses are back on - big lenses to look at the world. Damn, it is a good life.

These lyrics to Billy Joel's song Vienna have always touched me in that sometimes unreachable place we all protect and nurture. Again, I'm revisiting this inner fire and won't let it go this time.

18 years later, excitement in the air as we transition power without bloodshed, let's appreciate optimism, hope and a the sunshine. Won't you put your glasses back on?

Slow down you crazy child
You're so ambitious for a juvenile
But then if you're so smart tell me why
Are you still so afraid?
Where's the fire, what's the hurry about?
You better cool it off before you burn it out
You got so much to do and only
So many hours in a day

But you know that when the truth is told
That you can get what you want
Or you can just get old
You're gonna kick off before you even get halfway through
When will you realize...Vienna waits for you

Slow down you're doing fine
You can't be everything you want to be
Before your time
Although it's so romantic on the borderline tonight (tonight)
Too bad but it's the life you lead
You're so ahead of yourself
That you forgot what you need
Though you can see when you're wrong
You know you can't always see when you're right(you're right)

You got your passion you got your pride
But don't you know that only fools are satisfied?
Dream on but don't imagine they'll all come true
When will you realize
Vienna waits for you

Slow down you crazy child
Take the phone off the hook and disappear for a while
It's alright you can afford to lose a day or two
When will you realize...
Vienna waits for you.

And you know that when the truth is told
That you can get what you want
Or you can just get old
You're gonna kick off before you even get halfway through

Why don't you realize...Vienna waits for you
When will you realize...Vienna waits for you

2009 Inspiration - Time to Change the Road You Are On



Hold on to this for your new year.







Yes, there are two paths you can go by, but in the long run
There's still time to change the road you're on.
And it makes me wonder.


from the strangest source: lyrics, stairway to heaven

Sunday, December 28, 2008


The Complete List of the Top 100 Novels
See how many you've read.

A - B
The Adventures of Augie March
Saul Bellow

All the King's Men
Robert Penn Warren
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American Pastoral
Philip Roth
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An American Tragedy
Theodore Dreiser

Animal Farm
George Orwell
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Appointment in Samarra
John O'Hara
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Are You There God? It's Me, Margaret
Judy Blume

The Assistant
Bernard Malamud
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At Swim-Two-Birds
Flann O'Brien

Atonement
Ian McEwan
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Beloved
Toni Morrison
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The Berlin Stories
Christopher Isherwood
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The Big Sleep
Raymond Chandler
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The Blind Assassin
Margaret Atwood
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Blood Meridian
Cormac McCarthy

Brideshead Revisited
Evelyn Waugh
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The Bridge of San Luis Rey
Thornton Wilder
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C - D
Call It Sleep
Henry Roth
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Catch-22
Joseph Heller
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The Catcher in the Rye
J.D. Salinger
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A Clockwork Orange
Anthony Burgess
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The Confessions of Nat Turner
William Styron
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The Corrections
Jonathan Franzen
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The Crying of Lot 49
Thomas Pynchon
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A Dance to the Music of Time
Anthony Powell
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The Day of the Locust
Nathanael West
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Death Comes for the Archbishop
Willa Cather

A Death in the Family
James Agee

The Death of the Heart
Elizabeth Bowen
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Deliverance
James Dickey
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Dog Soldiers
Robert Stone
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F - G
Falconer
John Cheever
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The French Lieutenant's Woman
John Fowles
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The Golden Notebook
Doris Lessing
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Go Tell it on the Mountain
James Baldwin
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Gone With the Wind
Margaret Mitchell
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The Grapes of Wrath
John Steinbeck
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Gravity's Rainbow
Thomas Pynchon
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The Great Gatsby
F. Scott Fitzgerald
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H - I
A Handful of Dust
Evelyn Waugh
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The Heart Is A Lonely Hunter
Carson McCullers
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The Heart of the Matter
Graham Greene

Herzog
Saul Bellow
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Housekeeping
Marilynne Robinson
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A House for Mr. Biswas
V.S. Naipaul
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I, Claudius
Robert Graves
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Infinite Jest
David Foster Wallace
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Invisible Man
Ralph Ellison
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L - N
Light in August
William Faulkner
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The Lion, The Witch and the Wardrobe
C.S. Lewis

Lolita
Vladimir Nabokov
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Lord of the Flies
William Golding

The Lord of the Rings
J.R.R. Tolkien
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Loving
Henry Green
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Lucky Jim
Kingsley Amis
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The Man Who Loved Children
Christina Stead
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Midnight's Children
Salman Rushdie

Money
Martin Amis
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The Moviegoer
Walker Percy
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Mrs. Dalloway
Virginia Woolf

Naked Lunch
William Burroughs
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Native Son
Richard Wright
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Neuromancer
William Gibson

Never Let Me Go
Kazuo Ishiguro
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1984
George Orwell
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O - R
On the Road
Jack Kerouac
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One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest
Ken Kesey
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The Painted Bird
Jerzy Kosinski

Pale Fire
Vladimir Nabokov
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A Passage to India
E.M. Forster

Play It As It Lays
Joan Didion

Portnoy's Complaint
Philip Roth
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Possession
A.S. Byatt
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The Power and the Glory
Graham Greene

The Prime of Miss Jean Brodie
Muriel Spark
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Rabbit, Run
John Updike
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Ragtime
E.L. Doctorow
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The Recognitions
William Gaddis
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Red Harvest
Dashiell Hammett

Revolutionary Road
Richard Yates

S - T
The Sheltering Sky
Paul Bowles
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Slaughterhouse-Five
Kurt Vonnegut
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Snow Crash
Neal Stephenson

The Sot-Weed Factor
John Barth

The Sound and the Fury
William Faulkner

The Sportswriter
Richard Ford
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The Spy Who Came in From the Cold
John le Carre
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The Sun Also Rises
Ernest Hemingway
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Their Eyes Were Watching God
Zora Neale Hurston
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Things Fall Apart
Chinua Achebe

To Kill a Mockingbird
Harper Lee
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To the Lighthouse
Virginia Woolf
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Tropic of Cancer
Henry Miller
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U - W
Ubik
Philip K. Dick

Under the Net
Iris Murdoch

Under the Volcano
Malcolm Lowry
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Watchmen
Alan Moore & Dave Gibbons

White Noise
Don DeLillo
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White Teeth
Zadie Smith
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Wide Sargasso Sea
Jean Rhys


source: Lev Grossman from TIME

Friday, December 26, 2008

truth . love . grace









“What, gone without a word? Ay, so true love should do; it cannot speak, For truth hath better deeds than words to grace it” - Shakespeare

Kahlil Gibran...." But let there be spaces in your togetherness...and let the winds [flow] between you....and stand together yet not too near together; for the pillars of the temple stand apart, and the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow." -The Prophet

Monday, December 22, 2008

Monday, December 15, 2008

Hope Has Feathers




"Hope" is the thing with feathers
That perches in the soul
And sings the tune without the words
And never stops at all,

- Emily Dickinson


-dedicated to the women in my life struggling with addiction - hoping for the miracle of sobriety - and willing to do the work

Friday, December 12, 2008

Where the Parties Are


Best Link In My Opinion










http://www.washingtonian.com/blogarticles/people/capitalcomment/10034.html

Ms. Virginia 2008 (Int'l Galaxy) to Attend President's Inaugural Ball in Washington, DC


http://www.presidentsball.com/

VIP appearance by Ms. Virginia International Galaxy 2008
(Ms. Congeniality Winner in International Pageant)


Photos to Come.
Now, the big question.... "who will she wear?"

January 21st - Inauguration Day of President-Elect Barack Obama
7:30 - 1 a.m.
See receiving line/VIP table for photo ops.

Thursday, December 11, 2008

illusion of our separateness


These came today from a friend for me to ponder. Join in.







We are here to awaken from the illusion of our separateness.
— Thich Nhat Hanh, French-based Vietnamese Buddhist monk, peace activist and author (b. 1926)

A human being is a part of a whole, called by us _universe_, a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings as something separated from the rest... a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty. –Einstein

In separateness lies the world's great misery; in compassion lies the world's true strength.-- Buddha

I am a little pencil in the hand of a writing God who is sending a love letter to the world.— Mother Teresa

It is so fatally easy to confuse an aesthetic appreciation of the spiritual life with the life itself—to dream that you have waked, washed, and dressed and then to find yourself still in bed. - C.S. Lewis

Sunday, December 7, 2008

in need of grace

I do not at all understand the mystery of grace - only that it meets us where we are but does not leave us where it found us.


Anne Lamott is one of the most graceful and "in your face" writers I've come across. When I sit to write she is with me sometimes, when I'm not being honest enough. She's rough around the edges. She likes to live in her head. She likes to isolate. She likes to be alone with her HP. We are a lot alike.

She encourages me to stop holding back too much. And when I've given too much away, something I've done just recently, she lets me see it at a learning experience - one I won't repeat. I can grab it back, claim and own it, and make it mine again. Not doing it the same way twice.

She says to get what I need from within. To not look to others to find the answers I need - or to give me the validation that must come from within. This, all in her books about grace. If I stick to her definition of grace I won't lose my sense of self... and neither will you.

She inspires me to want to "get" grace. I look up to her as another women in recovery of addictions, and I hope to pass on what she's passed on to me.

In her words....

I do not at all understand the mystery of grace - only that it meets us where we are but does not leave us where it found us.

Friday, December 5, 2008

Booking 2009 Speaking Engagements!


Simple Grace - Daily Joys
By beth jannery


SIMPLE GRACE BOOKS & SPEAKING IS FILLING THE 2009 CALENDAR!
If you are looking for a motivational speaker for an event this year, please send an email or visit www.bethjannery.com to request a date. Beth Jannery is a nationally known author and speaker on the topic of putting grace into your life and work. Her most popular speaking engagement, Simple Grace - Living a Meaningful Life, moves audiences from all backgrounds to look within and discover their authentic purpose.

Join an event or book the speaker.
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what are you wearing inauguration day??!!



inauguration info below.... since many of you know i'm in the dc area i have been overwhelmed with excited questions about what the big events are all about....where will they be.... what will i wear.....where am i going..... how many balls are there? here's the best info i could gather. of course, in a "list."

oh, Valentino, of course :)

Presidential Inaugural Balls
A Celebration of Change Gala
A Time For Hope Inaugural Jazz Gala
All American Ball
American Indian Ball
Arizona Presidential Inaugural Ball
Arkansas State Society Ball
Be The Change Inaugural Ball
Black Tie and Boots Ball
Bytes and Books Ball
Change Has Come Inaugural Gala
Commander-In-Chief Ball
Constitution Ball
Democracy Ball
Freedom Ball
Garden State Inaugural Gala
George Washington University Ball
Hawaii State Society Inaugural Ball
HBCU Inaugural Gala Ball
Heroes Red, White, and Blue Ball
Historic Inaugural Ball
History in the Making Inaugural Ball
Illinois Presidential Inaugural Gala
Inaugural Peace Ball
Independence Ball
Indiana State Society Inaugural Gala
International Conservation Caucus Foundation Gala
Kentucky Bluegrass Ball
Land of Enchantment Inaugural Ball
Liberty Ball
Link Live Presidential Inaugural Gala
North Carolina Society Inaugural Gala
Ohio Inaugural Celebration
Patriot Ball
Pearl Presidential Inaugural Gala
Pennsylvania Inaugural Gala
South Carolina Inaugural Ball
Spirit of Hope Inaugural Ball
Stars and Stripes Ball
Sunshine and Stars Florida Ball
The Change Has Come Presidential Inaugural Gala
The Creative Coalition Gala Inaugural Ball
The Inaugural Purple Ball
The Presidents Ball
Unity in Service Inaugural Ball
Veterans Inaugural Ball

Other Inauguration Events
Inaugural Parade
Swearing In Ceremony

Try this LINK
http://www.greatseats.com/inauguration/inaugural_ball_tickets.htm

Wednesday, December 3, 2008

i want to know what you ache for


The Invitation

It doesn't interest me what you do for a living
I want to know what you ache for
and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart's longing.

It doesn't interest me how old you are
I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool
for love
for your dreams
for the adventure of being alive.

It doesn't interest me what planets are squaring your moon...
I want to know if you have touched the center of your own sorrow
if you have been opened by life's betrayals
or have become shrivelled and closed
from fear of further pain.

I want to know if you can sit with pain
mine or your own
without moving to hide it
or fade it
or fix it.

I want to know if you can be with joy
mine or your own
if you can dance with wildness
and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your
fingers and toes
without cautioning us to
be careful
be realistic
to remember the limitations of being human.

It doesn't interest me if the story you are telling me
is true.
I want to know if you can
disappoint another
to be true to yourself.
If you can bear the accusation of betrayal
and not betray your own soul.
If you can be faithless
and therefore trustworthy.

I want to know if you can see Beauty
even when it is not pretty
every day.
And if you can source your own life
from its presence.

I want to know if you can live with failure
yours and mine
and still stand on the edge of the lake
and shout to the silver of the full moon,
"Yes."

It doesn't interest me
to know where you live or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up
after a night of grief and despair
weary and bruised to the bone
and do what needs to be done
to feed the children.

It doesn't interest me who you know
or how you came to be here.
I want to know if you will stand
in the center of the fire
with me
and not shrink back.

It doesn't interest me where or what or with whom
you have studied.
I want to know what sustains you
from the inside
when all else falls away.

I want to know if you can be alone
with yourself
and if you truly like the company you keep
in the empty moments.


gratitude to my mentor Oriah

Monday, December 1, 2008

being in silence...waiting



the theme in my life in 2008 is, and has been, indecision. suggestion is "just sit in it." so i do. i sit and listen and the answers come.

when in it, i sit and wait. this helps. it is what i am doing.

No answer is also an answer.
–Danish proverb


sometimes the answers aren’t immediate or guaranteed. Sometimes the best answer is no answer, meaning we need to stay in an uncomfortable situation a little longer.

perhaps there is something we need to learn that can’t be learned unless we find it on our own.

we aren’t abandoned when our prayers & meditations & thoughts are answered by silence.

silence teaches us to listen closer, observe longer, and learn more in order to find our answers.

silence is a most difficult place for me. but when i don't have the answer an acceptable answer for the moment is: nothing. letting the silence wash over me. waiting.

Thursday, November 27, 2008

feeling gratitude


An optimist is a person who starts a new diet on Thanksgiving Day. --Irv Kupcinet
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Not what we say about our blessings, but how we use them, is the true measure of our thanksgiving. --WT Purkiser
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Thanksgiving Day is a jewel, to set in the hearts of honest men; but be careful that you do not take the day, and leave out the gratitude. ~E.P. Powell
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As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them. ~John Fitzgerald Kennedy
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Thanksgiving Day comes, by statute, once a year; to the honest man it comes as frequently as the heart of gratitude will allow. ~Edward Sandford Martin
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Grace isn't a little prayer you chant before receiving a meal. It's a way to live. ~Jackie Windspear

Tuesday, November 25, 2008

what legends are made of



Have you discovered the legend that says hummingbirds float free of time, carrying our hopes for love, joy and celebration?

The hummingbird's delicate grace reminds us that life is rich, beauty is everywhere, every personal connection has meaning and that laughter is life's sweetest creation.

I'm thinking about human condition today and how you celebrate your time here.

the last time you laughed it hurt so good?
the last moment of a true human connection?
the last sight of beauty that captured you so intensely you stopped in your tracks?
the last experience in floating free of time?

Monday, November 24, 2008

the storm


someone close to me who is experiencing one of life's storms had a moment of clarity today amidst the all-consuming and unsettling fear of not knowing what comes next...not knowing what to do now... and not knowing why this is happening...

exhausted, at the end of this day, after a turbulent year, he sent this via text -

Serenity is not freedom from the storm but peace amid the storm.

Like it! Will use it! Will you?

Sunday, November 23, 2008

right now


wherever we are is where we're supposed to be.

Thursday, November 20, 2008

wisdom to seek grace


Meditation for the Day

In these times of quiet meditation, try more and more to set your hopes on the grace of nature. Know that whatever the future may hold, it will hold more and more of good. Do not set all your hopes and desires on material things. There is weariness in an abundance of things. Set your hopes on spiritual things so that you may grow spiritually. Learn to rely on a power greater than you, more and more and in that reliance you will have an insight into the greater value of the things of the spirit.

Thought for the Day
I hope that I may not be overwhelmed by material things. I ask that I may realize the higher value of spiritual things.

Source: Twenty-Four Hours
photo credit: my december skye (8)

Tuesday, November 18, 2008

just breathe



inhale, it is pure, like water in the sea.
salty but familiar. a pull, to a quiet place.

necessary to exhale, feeling rhythm
centering the soul,
letting go. entering grace.
soaring free
spirits flying.

wide, awake, expansive and rare.
breathing space
blessings with nature's goodness
reminding me to go there.
visit bluebird skies,
looking, searching -
staying...
for as long as
i'm needed.

it's time.

Friday, November 14, 2008

i need a quiet moment


To Thine Own Self Be True

Yet here, Laertes! Aboard, aboard for shame!
The wind sits in the shoulder of your sail,
And you are stay'd for.
There ... my blessing with thee!
And these few precepts in thy memory
Look thou character. Give thy thoughts no tongue,
Nor any unproportion'd thought his act.
Be thou familiar, but by no means vulgar.
Those friends thou hast, and their adoption tried,
Grapple them to thy soul with hoops of steel;
But do not dull thy palm with entertainment
Of each new-hatch'd, unfledg’d comrade. Beware
Of entrance to a quarrel but, being in,
Bear't that th' opposed may beware of thee.
Give every man thy ear, but few thy voice;
Take each man's censure, but reserve thy judgement.
Costly thy habit as thy purse can buy,
But not express'd in fancy; rich, not gaudy;
For the apparel oft proclaims the man;
And they in France of the best rank and station
Are of a most select and generous chief in that.
Neither a borrower, nor a lender be;
For loan oft loses both itself and friend,
And borrowing dulls the edge of husbandry.
This above all: to thine own self be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.
Farewell; my blessing season this in thee!

-- William Shakespeare

Wednesday, November 12, 2008

i got a little reminder...


this week i got a little reminder (but really a big reminder) from an old friend. of course i have to share...

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us, it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

-marianne williamson
-has also been sited by nelson mandela

Tuesday, November 11, 2008

Simple Grace - A Journal for Your Journey


Released for the Holidays

A companion journal to The Simple Grace Book Series by Beth Jannery
Use Simple Grace - A Journal for Your Journey to write your thoughts, intentions and actions while you read any of the Simple Grace Books.

Give yourself this gift, or give it to a friend, and find a quiet corner to start your new beginning. For the holidays, for 2009, or for today.

As always, thanks to my readers. I love hearing how The Simple Grace Books have touched your lives. Please keep writing: bethjannery@gmail.com

To order the companion journal: Simple Grace - A Journal for Your Journey
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service, honor, love and pain



Thank you today and everyday.
A moment of silence on Veteran's Day.
Honoring:
Aunt Louise
Dad
Jon

survive the storm or dance in the rain?


a friend shared this story with me today, go and share it with someone you care about.

How to Dance in the Rain

It was a busy morning, about 8:30, when an elderly gentleman in his 80's arrived to have stitches removed from his thumb. He said he was in a hurry as he had an appointment at 9:00 am.

I took his vital signs and had him take a seat, knowing it would be over an hour before someone would to able to see him. I saw him looking at his watch and decided, since I was not busy with another patient, I would evaluate his wound. On exam, it was well healed, so I talked to one of the doctors, got the needed supplies to remove his sutures and redress his wound.

While taking care of his wound, I asked him if he had another doctor's appointment this morning, as he was in such a hurry. The gentleman told me no, that he needed to go to the nursing home to eat breakfast with his wife. I inquired as to her health.

He told me that she had been there for a while and that she was a victim of Alzheimer's Disease. As we talked, I asked if she would be upset if he was a bit late. He replied that she no longer knew who he was, that she had not recognized him in five years now.

I was surprised, and asked him, 'And you still go every morning, even though she doesn't know who you are?'

He smiled as he patted my hand and said, 'She doesn't know me, but I still know who she is.'

I had to hold back tears as he left, I had goose bumps on my arm, and thought, 'That is the kind of love I want in my life.'

True love is neither physical, nor romantic.
True love is an acceptance of all that is, has been, will be, and will not be.
The happiest people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the best of everything they have.

Life isn't about how to survive the storm.... but how to dance in the rain.

Monday, November 10, 2008

might be something you need to read


sometimes annoying, often overused, but always true...

I can have complete serenity at this very moment...if I live in denial.

We came to AA to save our ass, and found out our soul was attached .


Hope
Unity
Gratitude
Serenity
not drugs

HOPE is
Helping
Other
People
Everyday!

Just For Today...
You have to be willing to get rid of the life you have planned, so to have the life that is waiting for you.

No matter what - you don't have to pick up.

Until the pain gets strong enough, there will be no change.

It came to pass; it didn't come to stay.



Humble people don't think less of themselves, they just think of themselves less.

Resentments are like peeing your pants--they don't affect anyone quite as much as you!

May your lost dreams of yesterday become the reality of your tomorrow!


Hit your knees.....
not the bottle!"

I can't fix anyone but me,
and that's a full time job!"

Recovery is an inside job

Just for today.

Think Think Think

First things first.

How important is it?

Keep an open mind.

Keep it simple.

Live and let live.

Have an attitude of gratitude.

Mind your own business.

Progress not perfection.

Change the things I can.

One day at a time.

Wonderful things happen
One day at a time

Listen and learn.

Let go and let God

Easy does it.

This too shall pass.

Great expectations can lead to great disappointments.

Al-Anon doesn't give us the choice between feeling good or feeling bad- it gives us the choice between feeling and not feeling.

Learn from the mistakes of others. You can't live long enough to make them all yourself

If it is to be, it is up to me.

If you think handling everything is too much, try letting go.

Fear is a darkroom where negatives are developed.

Take what you like and leave the rest.

Measure yourself by your best moments not your worst.

Remember yesterday, dream of tomorrow, but live for today.

The longest journey starts with the first step.

Recovery is a process, not an event-it takes time.

Recovery is an inside job.

You must be present to win.

Each new day offers a new opportunity

One hour at a time..
One day at a time..
One step at a time

Wonderful things happen..
One Day At A Time

A.A. Slogans

"It's alcohol-ISM, not alcohol-WASM !"

"A.A. also stands for.
"Attitude Adjustment."

"I can only carry the message, I can"t carry the drunk!"
Seven missed meetings makes one weak.

Happiness is not getting what you want, it is wanting what you get.

Self-will can get me what I want right now,
God's will can provide what I need for eternity.


The only difference between stumbling blocks and stepping stones is how we use them.

Being Recovered from Alcoholism is like getting a Gunshot wound. You can
recover from it but it does NOT make you bulletproof. You can recover from
alcoholism but it does not make you Immune from Alcohol.

HALT: Don't get
too Hungry,
too Angry,
too Lonely, or
too Tired!!

It's never to late to be what you might have been. George Eliot (12 life in recovery magazine).

There ain't no big deals!

If you do what you always did, you will get what you always got.
or
If you keep doin' what your doin'
you'll keep gettin' what your gettin'



No matter how far off the path we've stumbled, we're no more than 12 steps away from the solution!

Thoughts are not things and feelings are not facts; they only have the power we give them.

Looking for God
is like a fish looking for water.

Listen to the message..
not the messenger

Feel, Deal and the Heal
(Feel it, Deal with it and then Heal from it)

Hope is knowing the good in us will overcome the bad.

Happy, Joyous & Free

God speaks to us all a little differently, hoping we'll tell each other.

Even if I'm on the right track, if I don't move I'll get run over

Don't give up five minutes before the miracle

Do not be discouraged.

There is no situation too difficult to be bettered and No unhappiness to great to be lessened.

Don't take everything personally.

When you feel left out, reach out.

Have patience with all things, but first with yourself.

Serenity comes when I stop expecting and start accepting.

Today is the tomorrow that I worried about yesterday.

You cannot deal with the alligators until you drain the swamp and get out of the mud.

Glance at the past, but don't stare at it.

You can't change yesterday, but you can ruin today by worrying about tomorrow.

Wherever you go- there you are.

To live or just exist- the choice is yours.

Focus on the program-not the problem.

One needn't make a crisis out of an incident.

When you're flat on your back, there's no way to look but up.

As you go through life, make this your goal- watch the donut not the hole.

No is a complete sentence.

It's hard to be hateful when you're being grateful.

Fear is not a shortcoming- it's an emotion. Our reaction to it can be the shortcoming.

It helps to learn the difference between being responsible to others and being responsible for others.

Ulcers are what you get from mountain climbing on mole hills.

If you find yourself in a rut, stop digging.

Never walk unescorted through your own mind- it can be a dangerous neighborhood.

The way to get anywhere is to start from where you are.

If you want serenity, put your Higher Power between you & your problem.

Expectations are premeditated resentments.

Friday, November 7, 2008

my favorite meditation


when you don't know what to do, don't do anything. read this and it will guide you. then, when you are ready to take action, to make a change, do the "next right thing."

Prayer of St. Francis

Make me an instrument of Your peace.

Where there is hatred, let me sow love.

Where there is injury, pardon;
Where there is doubt, faith;
Where there is despair, hope;
Where there is darkness, light;
and where there is sadness, joy.
O Divine Master, grant that I may not so
much seek to be consoled as to console;
To be understood, as to understand;
To be loved, as to love;
For it is in giving that we receive;
It is in pardoning that we are pardoned;
And it is in dying that we are born to
eternal life.

pray for the people who try to hurt you


Thought for the Day
I have lost many of my resentments. I have found that getting even with people doesn't do any good. When we try to get revenge, instead of making us feel better, it leaves us frustrated and cheated. Instead of punishing our enemies, we've only hurt our own peace of mind. It does not pay to nurse a grudge, it hurts us more than anyone else. Hate causes frustration, inner conflict, and neurosis. If we give out hate, we will become hateful. If we are resentful, we will be resented. If we do not like people, we will not be liked by people. Revengefulness is a powerful poison in our systems. Have I lost my resentments?


Meditation for the Day
It is not so much you, as the grace of God that is in you, that helps those around you. If you would help even those you dislike, you have to see that there is nothing in you to block the way to keep God's grace from using you. Your own pride and selfishness are the greatest blocks. Keep those out of the way and God's grace will flow through you into the lives, of others. Then all who come in contact with you can be helped in some way. Keep the channel open, free from those things that make your life futile and ineffective.

source: Bill W's program material

a new beginning




simple grace books & consulting is beginning a new blog filled with inspiration, mediations, daily joys, purpose and grace.

please stay tuned.

-beth
author, consultant & founder of simple grace books

www.bethjannery.com